3 steps forward to a better you

It’s that time of the year when we all start thinking about the past, the present and the future. We start thinking about resolution methods, gyms, and we crave to build a better version of ourselves. But we often give up after a month or even three weeks… Why??

This year I decided to step forward and move once again from my comfort zone to follow the life I always dreamed. Overcoming many challenges and learning so many lessons, meeting fabulous people and finally feeling my place in the world. It’s the year I decided to leave behind all my fears, limitations, all the: ‘I can’t’, ‘I am not good enough’, ‘What If I fail?’, to finally try and make it happen.

It seemed impossible a year and a half ago to think that my life would have changed so much, so fast.

It took me a long time to realise where I am, why I am here, what is my purpose in life. Before that I was just walking around lost, with no focus, eager for more but without knowing what. Feeling empty, without real purpose, having all I could ask for but I was still missing something. I was frustrated with the world but mainly with myself for not doing what I love and for not sharing my talents and passion.

For this reason, I want to share with you my secret, what helps me to keep on the road of my dreams and feel fulfilled.

A LITTLE EXCERCISE...

At the end of the year I usually review my current state to see where I am and I take time to think on what I really want to do, change or improve in my life. It is also important to know where we come from, where we are now, and where we want to move to next. Where do you really want to be in a years time? What are your goals, dreams, aspirations? Are you living your life fully? Are you doing what you love? If the answer is no. What is holding you back? What are those limitations? If you don’t know and you feel stuck, let me help you with a little exercise. Step 1) Take a pen and a piece of paper and make three columns.

In the first column write down where you are right now in this present moment. What are you doing? What are you studying? What certificates do you already have? Where do you live? Make a list.

Step 2) In the third column you are going to write your desired state. Where would you like to be in maybe a year time? Six months?

Another possibility is that you don’t have a clue what do you want to do, and that is absolutely fine. Trust, listen to yourself and you will know in the depths of your heart what your soul is yearning for. If money didn’t exist… What would you be doing? Would you study? Would you help others? Would you have your own business perhaps? Would you teach? Would you paint, dance, sing? What moves you? Take your time, be patient and kind to yourself. Write anything that comes to your mind, you don’t need to think too much, just let your creativity flow. Step 3) The second column you are going to write down what you need to do to get from your current state to your desired state. Is there a training you need to do? Finances? Research? Do you need to contact someone? Is there anything to let go of? Fears, limitations, boundaries, believes systems acquired from your family/parents…? Do you need self-confidence? Trust?

Now you know where you are, where you want to go, and few ideas of what to do in order to make it happen. I often draw it, and make my desired state colourful. That helps me focus on it! At this point I usually close my eyes and I take few seconds to visualize it.

IMPORTANT: See it, believe it! Feel what you would be feeling like it already happened!

If you choose drawing it, (which is my favourite option as it is more visual) leave it in a place near your bed where you can see it every morning and every night.

Every day take a small step towards your goal.

You don’t have time in your busy agenda… Alright! Dedicate just 15 minutes of your time to read, write, research, or do anything that gets you closer to your dream. At the end of the month you will have 30 little things that made you closer to achieve your goal!!!

WRITE YOUR WISH LIST

Once I have a better picture of what I want to achieve in the short/long term, this is what I usually do: I have a special notepad. Before the year ends, I take some time for myself, meditate, go for a walk, sit in the park, etc. I like having few different notepads for different things, ideas, plans, classes, etc. I prefer the old-school method of pen and paper rather than typing in my laptop, but that is up to each person and what works the best for you. The important thing is that you write it somewhere where you won’t lose it, where you can go back and review it anytime you wish and to keep it somewhere accessible and easy to see. I always review the goals from the previous year, which I have noted in the same notepad. Every year, at the end of the year I finish ticking all the ‘boxes’, all the accomplished goals I wrote in December 2016 for the year of 2017. Anything I wanted to get, my aspirations, things I wanted to change, situations I wanted to improve, material things, training… Everything! Then I make my list for the next year. Easy, right? But wait! Don’t plan to go to the moon and back! Think of something realistic, something achievable. This will keep you motivated.

Even if you don’t have the money right now, or if it seems far away or almost impossible. Make the list, trust, see it and feel the satisfaction you would feel if it already happened! What would you feel in that moment?

Close the notepad and forget about it, keep going with your life as usual.

After 10 years doing this myself I still get shocked sometimes. It is still incredible when you come at the end of your year and you tick things that you probably didn’t even remember you wrote, or that you didn’t have the resources to get. The universe will drive you there, no matter how or when if you trust it will happen at the right time and for your greatest good.

Sometimes things aren’t meant to be, or what we wanted 12 months ago, is not what we want anymore. Then accept it, accept the changes and the challenges. Learn from them.

To keep the motivation and because I love ticking goals I do my short-term goal planning. Every three months I do another short list, then I close the notepad and keep going with my life as normal. Around the third month usually this comes to my mind randomly and I review it! And... tick, tick, tick!! I proudly can say all my goals were ticked this year! Woohoo! This 2017, was all challenge, big changes and the most important lesson I learned… Trust, have faith and it all will come at the right time and in the right moment. Now… Writing my goals for 2018 I know it is going to be another exciting year and I can’t wait to share it with you all!

Wishing you a 2018 of purpose, joy, happiness and abundant prosperity! Laura

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